I haven’t written anything in a few months, it’s been bumming me out. I looked back at my last post in April, a month into quarantine and somewhat optimistic. Now looking down the barrel of winter and working from home until at least 2021, I’m having a hard time.
At first it was just managing the stresses, putting out the fires. The kids needed things and there was homework and meals and sudden work deadlines. It was a triage at best for a long while.
Recently we made the difficult decision to put the kids back in daycare, and one of them, back to school in a few weeks. And most importantly, everyone has remained healthy and safe. So things around the house have quieted down. Work deadlines have been met and have become more manageable.
My husband’s been going into the office more. A lot of the time, it’s just me at home with the dog. I’m scared about the winter, it feels a little bleak.
I know there are so many good things about being at home: I haven’t taken the Go Train since March, I get to spend more time with my kids because I’m not commuting, I’ve made more baked goods than I ever thought humanly possible. I started eating better and increased my activity level – I’ve walked around my neighbourhood more times than I can count.
But I guess I’m a bit lonely? I’m used to such a social work environment, and lunching with a close friend. I almost never wear my ‘work clothes’ anymore and I’ve put on makeup less than 5 times. I know I could still do those things, but somehow seems silly to still do a full face of makeup for the dog.
Maybe I was too spoiled before. Maybe I’m too spoiled now. Maybe both? I just feel out of touch, extremely tied to the house and a bit aimless. I worry about a second wave, and think about it often. I’m incredibly grateful that my family and my kids are happy and healthy, I just never thought back in March when I came home that I’d still be here and will be here almost a year later.